I have 2 videos on youtube under "Free Dilara" and I have a facebook page titled "Free Dilara Gider". I am using "free" as a verb at this point, but I hope that it will be used as an adjective soon. We have to fight not only to restore her freedom, but also to maintain it.
I am so disappointed in Dilara's father. I just hope that he is not beyond help. Of course, with God, nobody is too far gone, as long as they live.
My main focus is to get my daughter back. I am also working on doing whatever I can to make the world a safer place for everyone else's children.
We need judicial reform NOW. Mostly, people need to wake up and realize what is going on in the world around them. I had no idea things were so corrupt and I never thought judges had such contempt for the flag and the Constitution.
Today my brother and I replaced the alternator in my car. I was thinking of how I wish Dilara had been here to observe. I want her to learn practical skills and to be as self-sufficient as possible. And the more you can do, the more service you can be to others. I hate that they took home ec and shop out of schools. I hate that so few children have a full-time parent, and a 2 parent household. I hate that so few people attend church on a regular basis. I hate that so few people know their neighbors.
My Christmas gift from my brother was a tenor ukelele. It is amazing. I can't wait to show Dilara. I learned several chords the second day I had it. It is wonderfully portable. Everybody should play a musical instrument. I have an electric piano keyboard, but I haven't got it set up. I need to rearrange furniture to get it into a good spot. A ukelele is wonderfully portable. I practiced in the car to and from Kentucky yesterday when my brother and I went to visit my aunt. It is very good for the brain to play a musical instrument. I want to make sure I spend time daily in practice. My brain has been really stressed out lately.
Another thing that will help my brain is if I start back bellydancing. I lost my bellydance teacher a year and a half ago, but I have some videos. Exercise is very important. I especially enjoy bellydance. I have gained a few pounds since I lost my daughter, and I think I will lose them if I get more active.
The past couple of months have been pretty hard for me. The last time I went on court to try to get the order of protection done away with, or modified so I could see Dilara was October 30. I even had a lawyer go to court with me. He thought it would be an "easy win" to get the judge to modify the order of protection to accommodate the custody orders of juvenile court. Dilara's dad's lawyer made such a big fuss. I really think she should have her license suspended. She has gone against the law so many times, but the judges go right along with her.
Judge Phillip Robinson in Third Circuit Court is the one who issued the order of protection. Dilara's dad and his lawyer lied so much about so many things, and the judge was in such a rush at the hearing June 15 that I knew he was not going to give me the opportunity to straighten things out. October 30 he told me to file a petition to get my "day in court", but I have had 2 months to write it up, but it still isn't done. I was terribly sick for about 6 weeks after that hearing. Stress makes my fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue worse. My mood has been good, though. I thank God for that.
It is really hard for me to be concise, and I have to much to tell the judge. I am going to try to get this written up and filed Monday or Tuesday. Then the other side will have 30 days to answer before we can set it for trial. I cannot for the life of me understand why Dilara's dad is spending so much time and energy fighting me in court to deprive me and Dilara of our rights that are supposed to be protected by the Constitution. I am sure he has spent several thousands of dollars. I will never, ever give up on getting my daughter back.
I am also going to ask that Dilara's dad be held in contempt for fraud upon the court and perjury. I doubt that anybody will address that. I have asked from the beginning that he be required to tell the truth and to stop interfering in my relationship with my daughter. So far, nobody has found any fault in him, whatsoever. Of course, I have not attacked him. I just want him to leave us alone. I have no desire, whatsoever, to deprive him of any of his constitutionally protected rights. I would hope that if I asked a judge to deprive him of any of his constitutionally protected rights, they would deny my request. They probably WOULD deny me, since I don't have a lawyer. The lawyer opposing a pro se litigant seems to get almost everything they ask for, no matter how contrary to the law and common good it is.
I have so many things I want to do with my daughter. It is so sad to think of all we have missed out on due to the hardness of her father's heart. All I know to do is to keep praying and keep working as hard as I can to get the courts to right the wrongs.
I have filed for an appeal of the custody decision and will be in court January 21 with the judge who wrote it. There are several things she did not address and that she needs to be made aware of. I am also supposed to have 26 counts of contempt against me, but I don't expect they will be heard that day.